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There are a couple of things you
can do to prepare to give feedback

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to be sure that when you use this process,
it is received well.

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Know their style,
how they need to receive information.

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Confirm that it is a good time.

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First, as much as possible,
get familiar with their preferred style of

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communicating, either in general,
or at this moment.

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Does this person prefer a blunt,
no nonsense approach?

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If you know that Jenna tends to
prefer very direct communication,

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you can get right to the point.

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Do they need a gentle,
empathetic approach?

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If Robert has been dealing with some
hard family issues, like a sick parent,

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consider taking an approach
that allows him to settle in.

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Do they need additional clarity and
context?

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If Joe likes to have data and context,
provide clear, specific examples.

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Before having the feedback conversation,

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it's critical that you confirm that this
is a good time for them to receive it.

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For communication to happen,
they have to be listening.

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The point in asking is to make sure
they are ready to pay attention

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to receive feedback from you.

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There are many legitimate reasons
why they might be distracted.

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If they are,
that distraction will get between them and

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the message you're trying to deliver.

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And ultimately, the feedback won't affect
future behavior, which is the goal.

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So it doesn't make sense to talk
if they aren't ready to listen.

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To establish that this
is a good time to talk,

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you might ask,
can I share something with you?

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Can I make an observation?

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Can I give you some feedback?

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Can we talk about what just happened?